hmmm.. Ok.. it has been quite a bit of time. I feel like I can talk about this without crying.
In this blog I will tell you all how (in my opinion) a situation was not handled the correct way.
at 12 weeks 6 days I had my prenatal appointment at a new doctors office. I LOVE my old doc, but she is too far from work and where I live. so I did some research and tried to find a doctor closer to work. I was super excited! I got to meet with the Nurse first. she asked "do you want the baby to be checked for Down Syndrome* if you do we will need to get an ultrasound today." (Of course I said YES! I wanted to see my baby for the 1st time!) She explained to me that they needed to get measurements, and check the fluid on the back of the neck or something and they needed to see the nasal bone. Well, my stubborn baby wouldn't turn. After 35 mins.. and a vaginal ultrasound he turned for literary 10 seconds, but covered his face with both hands. so the tech wrote. wasn't able to see a nasal bone.
OK.. now lets get to the "important part" I just thought you guys should hear about the pre-situation.
a week later.. On a Friday morning.. (around 11:40)
I got a call from the doctors office. (I will never forget our conversation) after asking me to verify my name and birthday. the nurse said.
Im just calling to let you know about the results for the trisomy 13.
OK
Your test came back positive. it looks like your baby has down syndrome
OH..
its not 100% accurate so we need to get another test done. it will just be a blood test.
OK
OK, We will see you Tuesday you can get the blood work done when you come see the doctor.
I was at work, I was trying not to cry. when I felt the tears coming out. I looked down at by bump and said, Don't you worry honey, Mommy will love you no matter what! Then I looked up and said, God you make everything perfect, I know my baby is perfect. when I said that I automatically felt better.
I told my hubby, he didn't take it too well, He was furious that they just called me and gave me bad news over the phone. he was also worried and he was also sad, upset. We didn't know why. we are both young and in perfect health (thank God!)
2 hours later my phone rang again. (again after asking me to verify my info)
Im sorry, I was just calling to let you know that I read the results wrong. your baby doesn't have DS* its actually Trisonomy 18 or trisonomy ## (I don't remember the other number)
its actually worse then DS* so we will see you Tuesday.
I have to tell you, that was the longest weekend ever! I couldn't wait for it to be over! We decided to not tell anyone, we didn't want our family to worry. I was hoping they were wrong!
Once Tuesday was here. We went to the doctor's office. & this is how it went.
So, Im sure you had a big scare when they called and told you that the baby came back + with DS*
Yes!
Well, the Good thing is that its not DS* the bad thing is that it came back + with something else.
what is that (asked my husband)
That's a good question, its actually worse than DS* 90% of the time the fetus dies inside the mother the other 10% of the time it dies after its born, they usually don't last longer then a month.
(when she was explaining this to us, we were getting ready to listening to the heart beat)
She started making the most scary face. like OMG the hear beat is gone. she was shaking her head. and had a panic look on her face) of course I begin to worry. My husband said whats wrong.
I cant find a heartbeat she said. then she finally moved to the other side, and there it was, A strong heartbeat... She was like
OK, go get your blood drawn and in 7-10 days they will call you with the results. Bye!
In my opinion, she had no bedside manners, she wasn't sensitive about our situation at all, and said there was no heart beat before even moving the thing to try to find it.
7 days later. I got a call, the lady said
I just wanted to let you know that your results came back negative. Baby is super healthy just like mommy! oh and she told me the Gender of the baby too!
Those where the hardest 2 1/2 weeks of my life. But I will tell you one thing my faith never went away. it got stronger. and my love for my baby grew more and more every day!
The 2nd test that I got done was the MaterniT21. they just drew some blood and that was it. I wish they would of done that first instead of worrying us like crazy for no reason.
Like I said, God makes everything perfect, and he sent me the biggest blessing ever and I knew it was perfect!
I think this doctor and her nurse could of handle the stuff different.
1. I was going to be seen Tuesday, she could of waited to give me the "bad news" that day and not over the phone.
2. I don't think telling people your baby has something worse and its going to die (even tho they weren't 100% sure) is a good thing to do.
3. When she told us she couldn't find the heart beat. without basically looking for it. (yeah.. you don't do that!)
anyways.. I got a new doctor.
I would recommend that if they ask you if you want to find out if the baby has DS* you request the MaterniT21 its fast and based on the blood, not on what the can see and cant. It will be accurate!
